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Dirty Secret A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother Compulsive Hoarding eBook Jessie Sholl

I worked with the "mom" hoarder in the book for years. She was one of the nicest, hardest working nurses that I have ever know.. She was wickedly funny. Loved by everyone she took care of and those she worked along side. Of course, she was not my mother, but it is shame her daughter doesn't seem to see the parts of this woman that I knew. Well written book and an enjoyable read. Job well done!!


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Dirty Secret A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother Compulsive Hoarding eBook Jessie Sholl Reviews

This is a book that is written with sadness, frustration, love, and thankfully a lot of humor. This book is very enjoyable to read, and I couldn't wait to read more and more about her mother, father, stepmother, and her loving husband (Jessie is right, she is lucky to have found a man like him). The things she and her husband went through because of her mom's hoarding are both sad and hilarious. I thoroughly enjoyed her mom's quirky personality and Jessie's sweet determination in trying to help her so many times. I recommend this book for anyone, regardless if they have or know anyone with a hoarding problem or not. This is a very common mental illness, and after reading this book you may realize that someone you never suspected of being a hoarder could be one indeed.
When we're children, we sometimes feel as though others have a better life than we do. Especially if our family is different in some way. Maybe the difference is that one or both parents are alcoholic. Or perhaps the difference lies in some type of abuse going on in our lives. Maybe our family is poor.

Whatever we're dealing with, we are schooled in the homes where we grow up to keep the secret.

Jessie Sholl's secret was her mother's hoarding behavior, and in this insightful memoir, Dirty Secret A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother's Compulsive Hoarding, she shares not only the behavior, but many of the emotions, the history, and the ways in which her mother's disorder affected her life. And then she described how she finally broke free. Much in the way the children of alcoholics do by accepting that she could not change her mother's behavior. Once she did that, she could step back and not take responsibility for it.

But before that could happen, she had to go through a process and some very painful, ugly realities on the road to freedom.

Like a conversation, Sholl describes her life, her feelings, and how she gradually changed...as if she is telling it to friends or to a support group. Something she discovered at a point on her journey an online group for the children of hoarders.

She also begins to develop a great deal of insight into what her mother's world view looks like. In a get-together toward the end of this journey toward recovery, she, her mother, and her husband are having lunch.

"While they talk, I find myself imagining that I've shrunk myself down, so tiny that I'm microscopic. As this microscopic being I'm able to enter my mother's mind. Once I'm in, I try to look around. It's dark, too dark to see. But I can feel what's in there. And there's so much. It's filled with isolation and disregard and abuse. It's filled with uncertainty and self-doubt. It's filled with laughter, too. It's filled with friendless winters. It's filled with salty breezes and ten happy years with a man who truly loved her. It's filled with chaos and emptiness when that man was gone...."

In this excerpt, we come to understand the etiology of this disorder for one woman and her family. A captivating five-star read that I will never forget.
I'll start with this. My parents are hoarders, too, and I'm trying to write a book about it. Sholl is a brave leader. Embarrassing doesn't begin to describe what it's like to have hoarders for parents. Only those of us who have them really understand this, which is why it's excellent subject matter for memoir. And because until just recently, hoarding wasn't something people were much willing to talk about, let alone examine, we 1970s and 1980s children of hoarders were left to rationalize that our parents were simply...well... weird. Not weird like everyone's parents are weird, but truly WEIRD WEIRD. Neglect and shame are understatements. Writing about neglect is a difficult challenge because neglect is passive abuse. It is the *lack* of action that hurts. How do you describe lack of action? Not easy. Sholl did it well by showing how she couldn't help but relish the attention that comes from being injured or ill. I think Sholl was very brave to put this out there. The only thing that didn't quite ring "true" for this reader, was the willingness her mother displayed when her daughter cleaned house. That doesn't sound like the hoarders I know, who cling mightily to their old, filthy clutter and eye with great suspicion those who would help by encouraging a purging.
This is a warning to those of us who are teetering on the edge of hoarding. An apt reminder that what we regard as memorable and useful will be junked by our survivors.
Honest and well-written! I started this book last night - couldn't put it down. Stopped because I eventually couldn't keep my eyes open any longer. Picked it up this morning again and finished it in one reading. I loved both the author and her mother. She writes in a way that brings you close to the characters, their strengths and their failings. It is also a very revealing insightful look at hoarding and where its roots lie. I feel I have learnt so much from this book and will never judge a hoarder again. I felt sadness for the child her mother once was and realised I know many like her. Brilliant, brilliant book!
I really couldn't put this book down. I had a relative who was a hoarder and as I was reading this book it brought back many memories that had been buried (metaphorically). I definitely recommend this book for anyone who knows a hoarder, who is struggling with hoarding (most of us have those items we refuse to part with), or are just curious as to why people hoard in the first place. I only wished that I had been better informed when I was much younger so I wouldn't have felt so isolated because of my own dirty little secret.
I worked with the "mom" hoarder in the book for years. She was one of the nicest, hardest working nurses that I have ever know.. She was wickedly funny. Loved by everyone she took care of and those she worked along side. Of course, she was not my mother, but it is shame her daughter doesn't seem to see the parts of this woman that I knew. Well written book and an enjoyable read. Job well done!!